How Star Wars Helped Me Through My Breakup

August 05, 2016

This is not a fun topic to write about, but it is one that I think needs to be shared. I've been very public with the relationship between my fiancé and I from the very beginning, all the way to when we got engaged at Star Wars Celebration Anaheim, and to now. Unfortunately, he decided to end our relationship this week. The feeling was not mutual, so I was completely devastated when I heard his decision. However, I have found that Star Wars continues to be my comfort during hard times, and I wanted to share that with you.


While I could have laid in bed for a week with a gallon of ice cream and sobbed my eyes out, I did not want to take that path. Since I heard this upsetting news, I've been determined to handle this with as much poise and strength as I can muster up.

The first thing I did to seek comfort was call upon my friends- my Star Wars family. I've met so many wonderful people through Star Wars, whether it be through the internet, at conventions, or in other situations. I received hundreds of heartfelt messages on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram from friends that I love dearly to followers I've never met, expressing their encouragement for me. This was incredibly humbling. My friend Calli even drew me this precious image of Sabine and Rey, two of my favorite characters in the Star Wars universe, sharing a hug. It brought tears to my eyes, but in the best way. Speaking of tears, yes I cried. I cried a lot. However, only half of the tears I shed were out of sheer disappointment and sadness. The other half was out of complete love and gratefulness to everyone who took a moment out of their day to check on me. It meant so much.


The other thing that brought me comfort was thinking about a favorite Star Wars character of mine- Ahsoka Tano. How could Ahsoka help me through this difficult time? Well, her story is similar to mine. Remember when the Jedi council betrayed Ahsoka when she was framed for murder in season five of The Clone Wars? I'm sure she felt very heartbroken and confused at that time. She probably cried a lot too. She probably didn't know what to do after she left the Jedi Order, just as I'm feeling now. But the important thing to remember is that Ahsoka came out on top. She became even stronger through these struggles and used them as learning experiences. As I'm dealing with my own heartbreak, I'm holding Ahsoka's story close to my heart and remembering that I will come out of this stronger than I was before. 

So I will leave you with this...


When things go wrong, when your lifelong plans are changed, or if someone close to you rejects you- don't lose hope. Ever. Out of darkness always comes light and everything will be okay. Be grateful for the happy times you had and don't let betrayal make you bitter. Everything happens for a reason, and don't close your mind to all the amazing things that are waiting for you right around the corner. 

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11 comments

  1. Even in your darkest hour, you're an absolute inspiration to men and women everywhere. Thank you for sharing both your grief and your strength of spirit with us. I was always a huge supporter, not only of your relationship, but of both of you as individuals. I will continue to love and admire you as you forge a new path. You are an incredible human being, Savanna, and I have so much respect for you. I'd add a bit of comforting 'advice' here, but from the looks of it, you're way ahead of me there. :) Just know that this past month when I was very sick and in and out of the hospital, reading the Dorky Diva blog always made me feel better.
    <3 Lor

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  2. Looking forward to The Force Awakens got me through my divorce and a scarry battle with depression that came after. To friends and family this is not logically the right way to handle situations but it works for me. All the best going forward and MTFBWY always ~Brian

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  3. Oh my friend, my heart is heavy for you. That first time I saw you was at Celebration during that proposal. Shortly after I ran into you at Star Wars weekends and thought to myself, what a sweet, strong and talented young woman. You inspire so many people, of all ages... including an older fan girl like me. Even now, when your world has turned upside down, you continue to shine the way you always have. I know that this will make you stronger. I can tell that you will be fine. I am very sorry that this had to happen to you, but you will be perfectly fine. We are all here for you. MTFBWY ALWAYS!

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  4. Sorry, but what a s**t thing for him to do, it's his loss. You have my sympathy. Your family, friends and Star Wars will be there when you need them. I hope you find some peace in your heart before too long.

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  5. Man, I have Star Wars help me out in a dark time. My grandmother had recently passed away and before she passed, I showed her the force awakens. I love that movie. She liked to. When I saw it with her, I realized something, she is Han Solo to me and when I saw the death of him in the movie, I was very saddened and same goes for when she passed. Before and after the funeral I watched the force awakens to honor and also realize, that I'm just in the Star Wars universe, Rey to Solo, that my adventure continues on from here and I'm still making my way through the darkness. I'm almost out, I can tell but I just have to let it life go on and remember that it is the will of the force and no one can stop the will of the force. I hope everything goes well for you in the future. May the force be with you all.

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  6. So sorry you're going through this. Yet nobody can deny you seem to have big things on the horizon in your life. Someday you will look back and be amazed at how well and how far you have moved on! And yes, from a family who has been through a series of upheavals and forced new starts... Star Wars does help! It's a source of hope and reminder that there is always something bigger than ourselves at play. And just like Star Wars ... you have been an inspiration to my family... thanks to meeting the 501st at MegaCon and listening to your interview on GFR, my son, Kyle, just ordered his storm trooper kit to join the 501st by his 18th birthday in December and have it ready by April! Star Wars has always given my family something to share and look forward to.

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  7. As I see, read and watched what you went through, I feel my long past feelings of the same. I asked God what happened? This is what I want...A life with this person. But I wasn't listening. God ended this relationship for a so much greater one. I would never believed it. I do now being with a woman over twenty long years. It WILL get betterid. Put your mind off the past and into school, SW, TFA, Cosplay, family and friends.

    One day at a time. MTFBWY, Milt&family

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  8. As I see, read and watched what you went through, I feel my long past feelings of the same. I asked God what happened? This is what I want...A life with this person. But I wasn't listening. God ended this relationship for a so much greater one. I would never believed it. I do now being with a woman over twenty long years. It WILL get betterid. Put your mind off the past and into school, SW, TFA, Cosplay, family and friends.

    One day at a time. MTFBWY, Milt&family

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  9. Savanna, You don't know me. We have never met in person. I'm one of your followers on social media that has watched your journey thinking, "she would totally be cool to hang out with for a day." Seeing how many people you touch with happiness and the lives you brighten is always a joy to watch. My heart sank for you when this happened because I knew how happy you were to have your life goals lining up. There are really no words that I could offer that would make the anguish of what you have been feeling go away. I'm sure you have had the best support system of friends and family to help you get through this tough time. There are going to be times when you think that everything has gone wrong and your world is turning upside down. That's the Dark Side. The fear, anger and self doubt that may try to consume you but anyone and everyone that knows you or follows you or has any clue as to what kind of a person you are will know that YOU WILL NOT LET IT KEEP YOU DOWN! You are a strong, fierce and passionate woman that has such a positive outlook on life and willingness to help others that times like these are just one of the "Jedi Steps" that you will have to take to reach the top of the mountain. I wish you all the luck in the world for what lies ahead of you, which I am positive is nothing but great things. I know it's the most cliche thing to say but, things happen for a reason and over time you will come to realize these moments happened to lift you up to the stars and move you 0.5 past lightspeed!!! MTFBWY- Always...

    -Mike-
    @drumjedi

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  10. I'm about 20 days late reading this, but your post made me so happy, and I'm glad you're getting through this. Star Wars is so great and I'm glad it can help you and many others (me included!) through tough times.

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  11. Hi
    Thanks for sharing this. Granted I didn't face a break up this year, I have been dealing with a lot of things for the past couple years since I lost my job in 2013. Things have not gone well and I have over the years become very discouraged. I appreciate you sharing these encouraging words to not give up and keep moving forward.

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